Planning a memorable wake
In the 1960s, researchers outlined the five common phases of emotion we typically go through when experiencing grief. These are known as the Five Stages of Grief – you can read more about them here. ‘Bargaining’ is the third stage, after denial and anger, and before depression and acceptance.
Grief doesn’t have a timeline or predefined path, so it’s perfectly normal to go through the stages in a different order or not go through some of them at all. Bargaining, however, can be a difficult stage to move through. Here’s why.
What is a wake?
A wake is a gathering traditionally held after the funeral service. It's a time for friends and family to come together, share memories and support one another during their grief. There is a focus on telling stories about a life well lived. It's a beautiful way to celebrate your loved one's legacy and a time to hug your friends and family in a less formal setting.
A wake, memorial or funeral service — what’s the difference?
Funeral service testing
Memorial service
Wake
Planning a memorable wake
Choose the right venue
Create a personalised experience
Share memories
Funeral wake costs
The costs of a funeral service wake can vary greatly depending on what you want to include. Hosting the wake at home or in a park may be more affordable. Renting a venue or hiring a catering service will definitely increase expenses. Remember, a beautiful wake doesn’t need to cost the earth.
Here are a few things you may need to factor into your budget:
Hiring a venue costs
- Venue hire
- Catering — beverages and food
- Decoration
- AV hire
- Staff wages
At-home gathering costs
- Food (or people could all bring a dish)
- Drinks (or this could be BYO)
- Glassware, cutlery etc
